The Lost Fun Gene.
I’ve confessed this here before; I’m not really good at having fun. I don’t really know how, I never learned. Oh sure, I can tell a joke and there’s lots of stuff that makes me laugh hysterically. But I find it hard to genuinely enjoy many situations.
Growing up the oldest of 4 siblings, I am the over-acheiver stereotype. Fun wasn’t really part of the routine. But chaos sure was.
If I’m not planning something…then I’m worried about something…if I’m not worried…then I wonder what’s wrong with me…if there’s nothing wrong…then I fidget. It seems that something has to be askew or in flux in order for me to understand my purpose or my next steps.
It seems that I missed the lecture about one of the fundamentals of how to have a good time, “living in the moment”. For me, that statement is a big “whatever”. How can I live in this moment when, I’m always planning to live in the NEXT moment?
But I’m going to change that…starting tonight. Hubby and I are going to see Chris Isaak in NYC. It should be fun. Work will have to be put aside for one evening…there’s always tomorrow. (Tomorrow I have to organize my products for a weekend trade show.)
Tonight, is just about the concert, the music, the city and us. No work, no house, no dog…just fun.
But before I can have all the fun, I need to:
- drop shirts off at the dry cleaner, buy one more thing for the trade show, get an overnight bag together, label all the show cartons, separate products by category, think about new advertising, get money for the dog-walker, check the bus schedule…oh and change the dinner reservations….and THEN I can have fun.
But until I really, really learn how to enjoy life, I’m going to share a quote with you from the author who wrote: Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff. He says,
“Don’t Over Dramatize The Deadlines”.
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3 opinions for The Lost Fun Gene.
Marti
Aug 17, 2006 at 2:42 pm
Hope you enjoy it, sounds like you need to take a break and have some fun!! :)
Kim
Aug 17, 2006 at 10:10 pm
Thanks Marti…that is so sweet of you.
I will try…plus Chris Isaak is so cute, how could I not have a good time!
Alexandra Levit
Aug 20, 2006 at 7:03 pm
Oh my god, why are we overachievers like this? It’s truly amazing. We work so hard to get where we are, but then it’s nearly impossible for us to really enjoy it. Instead, we’re already looking ahead to the next thing. Is there a cure for this?
Kim
Aug 20, 2006 at 9:14 pm
Hi Alexandra,
You ask a very important question…and I think the answer lies somewhere in the idea that our self-image is warped.
I have tried therapy…but it’s no good…we have to learn how to tell ourselves that we are exceptional and (here comes the hard part) we don’t really care what others’ opinions of us are. Does that make sense?
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