Princesses & Pornstars
I love the name of this book I’m reading called Princesses & Pornstars by Emily Maguire, an Australian feminist theorist. “And if how sexy you feel is only related to how much you conform to someone else’s version of what sexy looks like, then you are - by definition - a sex-object. Most of us have been sex-objects at one time or another, perhaps without knowing it, because it’s a matter of how another person sees us. . .
“But if you see yourself as the sex-object, if you can only enjoy sex when you think you look like someone with whom other people will enjoy sex, if feeling sexy is about the lingerie you’re wearing rather than the way your nerve endings are tingling, then you are performing sex rather than experiencing it.“
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2 opinions for Princesses & Pornstars
Ashley
Apr 30, 2008 at 6:38 am
This is interesting. But I have to say that when I ‘feel’ sexy I am ususally more uninhibited in the bedroom and we usually have better sex. If I slink in there with my stained flannel nightgown and prickly legs, it just isn’t as good. I don’t know if that’s my husband’s fault or not, he doesn’t care either way - I need it. Although, I can see this theory if it pertains to taking requests from your man about certain lingerie or thinking you must meet up to the porn star/playboy bunny stereotype we’re being bombarded with. That’s not what I’m shooting for by any means. What I’m shooting for is the sexy version of myself. But, I have to deliberately take off the mommy hat and put on the sex kitten hat or I’m just not as into it.
Tracee
Apr 30, 2008 at 1:15 pm
It’s like a complex riddle.
Nerve endings? Not sure that’s ever been my focus. I wonder if I’ve ever “experienced” sex rather than “performed it.”
I don’t think she’s suggesting we don’t enjoy performing it. Obviously, being a sex-object can be enjoyable.
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