Is Cooking The Secret To A Good Marriage?
We’ve been married for more than 20 years — a veritable “long and winding road”, and for some reason lately, I’ve been thinking about all of the little things in our relationship that make our little world so special.
When we were newlyweds, I had it in my head that the wife is supposed to know how to cook for her husband…but I didn’t. I didn’t even know how to make coffee — seriously.
I remember the first meal I’d ever made him…again, thinking this is what men wanted, I made pot roast.
To me, pot roast meant that you bought a hunk of meat, put it in a pot of water, let it boil forever and then serve with potatoes and carrots.
This thing came out looking like a giant grey basketball.
Well, this is when I began to know how lovely my husband is. I served him and he proceeded to eat every morsel. I’m sure it was disgusting…but he said it was delicious.
As time went by, I taught myself how to cook.
I learned how to master the art of pizza dough-making, I practiced and practiced how to make fine spaghetti sauce…I think I even once attempted the recipe for New York’s famous Magnolia Bakery cupcake.
Recently, I decided to make a pot of chili…because I’d never done it…doesn’t chili always look so good on the Food Network?
Anyway…it came out extreeeemly hot…so hot that you really couldn’t enjoy it. Well, he said he loved it.
I was ready to toss the whole thing, but he pleaded for me not to…”you can make chili dogs” he sweetly said.
He’s been doing stuff like that for 20 years. And I guess sometimes it’s these little, gestures of admiration and respect that are among the things that have held us together.
p.s. He is in charge of coffee.
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22 opinions for Is Cooking The Secret To A Good Marriage?
Michelle
Jan 10, 2007 at 7:04 pm
I don’t know if cooking is the secret but boy does it win his heart. All I have to do is fix a coconut cream cake and he’s mine forever.
Kim
Jan 10, 2007 at 7:48 pm
Yes, Michelle that is because everything you do is perfect.
btw…you should publish your Coconut Cream cake…my husband looooves coconut.
Steven Burda, MBA
Jan 18, 2007 at 12:36 am
Ha! Are you a good cook?
-Steven Burda
http://www.linkedin.com/in/burda
Kim
Jan 18, 2007 at 7:36 am
Hi Steve,
It took 20 years…but yes I’ve improved quite a bit since my pot roast days.
jan
Jan 26, 2007 at 7:20 pm
My most prized wedding present was a cookbook. It is grease stained and tattered now but I still use it at times.
Kellys
Jan 26, 2007 at 7:41 pm
It can’t be the way to a great marriage because I have a wonderful marriage that I wouldn’t trade for anything, or anyone, and I never cook anything of substance. My poor family :) Tonight htey got tomato soup and grilled cheese while I heated up egg rolls from WalMart
Kim
Jan 26, 2007 at 7:48 pm
Hi Jan…
It’s so nice to hear from you.
That is sooo sweet. I still have my late Mother-in-law’s soup spoons…I know for a fact that she probably bought them at the supermarket 40 years ago.
‘member when they sold stuff like that at the store?
Kim
Jan 26, 2007 at 7:50 pm
Hi Kell…tomato soup and grilled cheese and egg rolls to boot?
My husband would kill for that kind of supper!!!
John Masters (JAM)
Jan 26, 2007 at 8:47 pm
It’s obvious that he’s loved you dearly, from day one, bad cook or good.
I don’t drink coffe, so no one would want what I would brew.
(I’m here from the Blog Village Goes Gonzo Carnival.)
Marsha
Jan 26, 2007 at 11:42 pm
Lovely story. My husband is the same way, about cooking and everything, very careful with my feelings. Yeah!
Your blog is lovely!
(I’m here fromt he blog village goes gonzo carnival too!)
Janey Loree
Jan 27, 2007 at 12:27 am
I am visiting from the Blog Village Goes Gonzo Carnival!!! You have been truly blessed!!
Ruth
Jan 27, 2007 at 1:34 am
I remember the first time I cooked chips…..I didn’t know you had to heat the fat first!!!!….i put them in cold oil and then heated it…a disaster….I’m please to say that 40 years later hubby loves my cooking
Kim
Jan 27, 2007 at 7:12 am
Hi John,
Thanks so much for stopping by…
Yes, I do believe you’re right, and he’s a doll.
Kim
Jan 27, 2007 at 7:14 am
Hi Marsha,
Thanks for your kind words…
Yes I’m lucky…it’s rare when you can find a person who is good inside and out.
Kim
Jan 27, 2007 at 7:17 am
Hi Janey,
Thanks for stopping by…yes I am blessed.
Love the artwork on your site, btw.
Kim
Jan 27, 2007 at 7:20 am
Hi Ruth…A hahaha…that’s hilarious.
I’m glad you and hubby are still together and having great meals together.
Love the title of your blog, btw!
(I’m hoping to return to London this summer)
NAOMI
Jan 27, 2007 at 8:07 am
Great post Kim. I’m here from Blog Village Carnival. Sounds like you have been blessed with a wonderful husband. People like that are to treasure and so hard to find these days. I really like your blog. Will call and visit you again.
Kim
Jan 27, 2007 at 9:54 am
Hi Naomi,
Thanks for stopping by and for your kind words…Yes, he is special and I think the respect element is what has kept us together for so long.
Love your blog design…great content.
Debby
Jan 27, 2007 at 6:30 pm
Ah, maybe one day I shall be blessed as you have been. One can only hope. Thanks for sharing.
Kim
Jan 27, 2007 at 9:59 pm
Hi Debby,
Thanks for stopping by…he’s not a saint but he is wonderful.
Char
Feb 8, 2007 at 7:57 am
Kim,
Here is the EASIEST chili recipe ever.
Brown 1 lb. of ground beef in a deep pot.
Add two cans of red kidney beans (liquid and all)
Add two cans of diced tomatoes with peppers and onions (or similar)
Add one small can of tomato paste
Add one envelope of McCormick’s chili seasoning and 3/4 cup water.
Bring to a boil and simmer for 20 min.
Top with cheese, sour cream and jalepenos (if desired)
Guaranteed to please!
Kim
Feb 8, 2007 at 8:05 am
Thanks Char!!
I’ll try it out…I may have to eliminate the beans…hubby will just pick around them…(big baby.)LOL
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